falstafff said: i think what bugs me the most is men tend to think that "men are awful" is COMPLETELY equal to "women are awful". they don't realize the weight that "women are awful" carries with it. take pretty much every single recent shooting, especially the one by the rogers kid. women have been killed BECAUSE they're women for centuries now. speaking as a man, have EVER heard of ANYONE kill men BECAUSE they're men. it just doesn't happen. so contrary to popular belief, "men are awful" =/= "women are awful"
(cont:) and men tend to get so butthurt when you generalize them. MAN IT SURE MUST BE AWFUL TO BE GENERALIZED SOLELY BECAUSE OF YOUR SEX HUH which is very often replied to with “don’t fight fire with fire, which further equates to “just shut up and take the abuse”, because you should “be the bigger person”, when in reality, your bigness is NOT determined by your ability to sit there and take abuse. as a man, when someone generalizes men, i don’t feel the need to excuse myself because i know it’s not me.
Puck: Yeah, sexism is specifically institutionalized oppression of women, so they are definitely not the same. And I absolutely loathe it when people ask me to be quiet about this stuff, as if I haven’t been keeping quiet about it for a long time?? Just ugghhh. However, while I understand where you’re coming from with the “I know it’s not me,” perhaps be careful with that word choice when speaking to some women? Because sometimes it comes off as “I am excused from misogyny.” Trust me, I understand that’s not what you’re saying here! But some women might not and that would be bad.
Also, sorry for taking forever to reply! This has been in my inbox for a week. I’ve been working a lot!
Alma: I see where you’re coming from. While the statements (“women/men are awful”) are equal in a purely grammatical sense, they are indeed not in effect, simply because of sexism. I like that you acknowledge your privileged position even if your choice of words would not be mine. :)
Anonymous said: My boyfriend & I usually have sex on the floor behind his bed so when you walk in you can only see the bed. And we were having sex one day & I was on top and his mom walks in and she can't see him but she can see me with my shirt on, and she's asking me where he is and I'm sitting on his dick & he's on the bottom trying not to laugh and moving around to make me make faces. And we were talking for like 15 minutes while I was sitting on his dick and having pleasant talk with his mom. NEVER AGAIN.